男人應(yīng)該怎樣和女人聊天（雙語(yǔ)）

　　摘要:很多男人都沒(méi)有學(xué)習(xí)過(guò)怎樣和女人聊天。正因?yàn)槿绱?，很多男人終其一生都對(duì)女人沒(méi)有吸引力。以下是13個(gè)小貼士，讓你在想吸引的女人面前不犯錯(cuò)誤：

　　Many men are never taught how to talk to women. Because of this many guys go through life without the ability to attract a woman. Here are 13 tips to help make sure you aren't making mistakes with the women you'd like to attract:

　　1. You should talk about “emotional” topics like childhood memories, future ambitions, or her passions. These conversation topics will open up her emotional floodgates。

　　很多男人都沒(méi)有學(xué)習(xí)過(guò)怎樣和女人聊天。正因?yàn)槿绱耍芏嗄腥私K其一生都對(duì)女人沒(méi)有吸引力。以下是13個(gè)小貼士，讓你在想吸引的女人面前不犯錯(cuò)誤：

　　你應(yīng)該談?wù)摵?ldquo;情感”有關(guān)的話題，如童年回憶、未來(lái)志向、或者她的愛(ài)好。這樣的話題能夠打開(kāi)她情緒的閘門(mén)。

　　2. Women want a guy who is not afraid to lead her. While talking to a woman take control of the conversation. Never wait for her to dictate what you'll be talking about。

　　女人們喜歡有能力掌控她的男人。跟女人談話時(shí)要掌控話題。不要等著她告訴你談?wù)撌裁础?/p>

　　3. Pay attention to the non-verbal cues a woman is giving you. If you're standing too close to her, accidentally spitting when you talk, or making her feel uncomfortable in any way… she will send you hints. Pay attention to them。

　　注意女人給你的非語(yǔ)言提示。如果你站得離她很近，說(shuō)話時(shí)唾沫星橫飛，或是讓她在其他方面感到不自在，她會(huì)給你暗示，要注意這些提示。

　　4. Remember this motto “Fun not Funny。” Women are attracted to men who allow them to have fun. Don't concentrate on having the funniest jokes. Concentrate on showing them the most excitement and enjoyment。

　　記住這條箴言：“幽默但不滑稽。”女人會(huì)被讓她們開(kāi)心的男人吸引。不要只想著說(shuō)最搞笑的笑話，要多花花心思向她們展現(xiàn)最令人興奮最有樂(lè)趣的事物。

　　5. Tease　women. One of the easiest ways to take a conversation to a fun and flirty level is to begin to tease women. Think back to your time on the playground. In the world of dating… what worked on the playground is effective all over again。

　　挑逗她。要讓對(duì)話變得曖昧有趣，最簡(jiǎn)單的方法就是跟女士們調(diào)調(diào)情。回想一下當(dāng)初在學(xué)校操場(chǎng)上是如何和女生玩的。當(dāng)時(shí)吸引女生的方法現(xiàn)在在約會(huì)時(shí)也完全適用。

　　6. Get intimate with her. Women are turned on by men who are not afraid to take a conversation to a personal, intimate level。

　　聊聊私密的話題。女人會(huì)被敢于讓對(duì)話上升到個(gè)人的私密層面的男人吸引。

　　7. Use things like “cold reads” to turn women on. Women love to hear opinions about themselves. Tell her what you observe about her。

　　用“冷讀術(shù)”推測(cè)她們的心理來(lái)吸引女性。女人喜歡聽(tīng)別人對(duì)她們的評(píng)價(jià)。告訴她你眼中的她是什么樣的。

　　8. Avoid complimenting　a woman too much. Women are turned off by men who come across as “needy。” If you are complimenting a woman too much she will think you're trying to impress her. Which will have the opposite effect。

　　不要過(guò)度恭維女人?？雌饋?lái)“饑不擇食”的男人會(huì)讓女人大[微博]倒胃口。過(guò)度的恭維女人會(huì)讓她覺(jué)得你在想方設(shè)法吸引她的注意力，效果只會(huì)適得其反。

　　9. If you want to know how to talk to women in a way that doesn't bore them… Avoid asking too many “interview” style questions. Instead state your opinion about things。

　　如果你想知道要怎樣跟女人說(shuō)話才能讓她們覺(jué)得不無(wú)聊，要避免問(wèn)過(guò)多的“采訪”式問(wèn)題，而是陳述你對(duì)事物的意見(jiàn)。

　　10. Remember: Statements over questions. Instead of saying “where did you grow up?” Say “You don't look like you grew up around here。” This allows you to make observations about her and express your personality。

　　記?。宏愂龆嘤谔釂?wèn)。比起問(wèn)“你在哪里長(zhǎng)大?”來(lái)，說(shuō)“你看起來(lái)不像是在這塊地方長(zhǎng)大的。”會(huì)更好。這樣你既可以對(duì)她做出評(píng)價(jià)，也可以展現(xiàn)你的個(gè)性。

　　11. Don't hide your identity. Don't be afraid to talk about whatever you're passionate about。

　　不要隱藏自己的個(gè)性。別擔(dān)心，大膽談?wù)撊魏文阆矚g的事物。

　　12. Use conversation “games” to keep the mood fun and flirtatious. Games can be anything like “truth or dare” or to less extreme games like the “5 questions game”。

　　做點(diǎn)對(duì)話“游戲”讓氣氛變得曖昧有趣。游戲可以是“真心話大冒險(xiǎn)”，也可以是不那么極端的游戲，如兩人間的點(diǎn)名游戲。

　　13. Don't give away your hand so fast. Women like men who are a challenge. If you want to keep a woman's interest she has to feel like she is slowly winning you over. If she thinks you're too easy… she'll lose interest。

　　保持神秘感。女人喜歡有挑戰(zhàn)性的男人。如果你想讓女人保持對(duì)你的興趣，你要讓她覺(jué)得她需要慢慢贏得你的歡心。如果她認(rèn)為你太好到手了…她就不會(huì)對(duì)你有興趣了。

　　The best way to think about how to talk to women is to think about what kind of fun, playful, and sexual conversation you would most enjoy. Talking to a woman doesn't have to be difficult. You just need to be aware of what they are turned on by and what turns them off. Follow the list above and you'll do just fine。

　　和女人談話最好的方式，就是找一些有趣、好玩、涉及性的談話。和女人談話未必有那么困難。你只要知道她們對(duì)什么話題有興趣、對(duì)什么話題沒(méi)有興趣就可以了。放心照著上面的做就好了。